Rescue Your Relationship Using Surprisingly Simple Ways to Stop Your Divorce

As you read every word of these posts, I'll share with you some surprisingly simple ways to bring your marriage out from the threshold of destruction. Keep in mind however that it will take a commitment of both partners to prevent a crash and burn of your relationship.

If you are going through that terrible time when you or your partner feels like the marriage is coming to an end and you find yourself praying... "Lord, please stop my divorce!" you aren't alone. There are many who have gone through this and have managed to save their marriage. Also, there are plenty who haven't but found themselves happy again afterwards. There are actions that you can take to help stop a divorce or correct problems before they get to that point.

Listen, first you must realize, that as much as you may want to save your relationship you may not be able to. Make sure that you prepare yourself mentally for any possible outcome. This isn't thinking pessimistically, it is being realistic which is what you need to be.

But wait, there's more... you'll need to honestly consider whether or not your partner will be willing to work on the relationship too. No matter how sincere and motivated you are to make changes, it will take both of you working together to get back to the good ole days. You can't do it alone, and neither can your partner. If you aren't both committed to making it work, it's time to move on.

Important stuff here, listen up. If the situation is really bad, why not make use of family therapy or seek out marriage counseling. Therapists are well trained and have lots of practical experience in helping people get through these times of trouble. Even if there is adultery involved, they can help.

Many marriages have been brought back from the brink of destruction because of counseling and therapy. Counselers are accustomed to dealing with infidelity, depression or most other situations that stress a relationship to the point of divorce. Marriage counseling isn’t always expensive there are many options out there for you to use. For instance, a relationship guide or a save my marriage book is a good starting point. Seek good relationship rescue advice before you see a divorce lawyer!

What You Should Not Do

One thing you can learn not to do that may help stop your divorce is... don’t argue. Easier said than done, right! But arguing only makes the situation worse. Try calling it reasoning or discussing buy not raising your voice. The truth is that arguing is the same as trying to force your partner to feel differently than they do. Rather than force the issue, try reason. If you are serious and you want to "stop my divorce" you must realize that your battle is about your separation, not your spouse. The more you argue with them trying to point out where they are wrong, the more they will be wrong in your mind.

Don't try to defend yourself. You may be right, but don't try to convince them of that. Find the truths in their argument and compromise through reason. The more you can compromise through reason, the closer you will be to reaching an agreement. This will help them see that you are willing to do what it takes to iron out the problems. You want them to see your side of the story. If you are willing to be honest and accept some of what they are trying to say, then they will more likely be open to listening to your point of view. Marriage counseling is great at helping you understand how to communicate better if you really want to "stop my divorce."

You probably don't want your relationship to be another unsuccessful marriage statistic, do you? Most relationships can be turned around. Again, I must mention that both parties have to want it to happen.

You might have to sway your partner into believing your marriage is worth saving. Keep in mind that both of you have to work at it. The next few months just might be the most difficult you have seen in the history of your relationship. But when you get through the rut, you'll find that your marriage is stronger and happier than it ever was. Now isn't that worth fighting for?

Relationship Rescue, Can it Work?

You might say, "It's impossible" or "I've lost all hope". However, at this point in time, what else have you got to lose? If you want to rescue your relationship, you must hold on to that hope!

This is not about changing your partner. No amount of begging, blaming, shaming, force or manipulation will work and will only cause your spouse to resent you more. Niether will making yourself out to be the victim ever be beneficial.

True love will require compromise many times. You must be willing to bend your will and change up some things to make the relationship work. If there is to be a relationship rescue, you need to take a look at yourself to see what sort of things you might need to change and work on to be more compatible with your partner.

For instance you could tell your spouse, "I love you" with a kiss for no particular reason or tell them how much you appreciate the things they do. No matter how small or how great they are. Give complements and reinforce a positive attitude. This will bring joy and harmony back into your relationship. Little things such as these have great effects.

A major step of any relationship rescue is to change your perspective. For many people perception is a reality, but it can be a false reality. You might think you’re in the worst situation possible but then after a change of perspective, it may not seem all that bad. People have a way of blowing things out of proportion. In failing relationships this is especially true.

Quite a bit of marriage counseling deals with this bit of relationship rescue. Look closely at situations from different angles. Your spouse/partner may seem like they work too much but could it be worse? Yes, they could be hopelessly unemployed and struggling to find work. What ever the situation is, both of you are in this together. Look at it from a positive point of view. Low and behold a solution will shine through.

Talk through the negative situation and when things are settled, drop it and move on. Many of the problems that relationships face are due to the fact that there is one in the relationship or maybe both persons who hold on to grudges. Don't let that happen.

If there was something that happened in the past that has been dealt with or resolved, then let it go. There is no future in the past. When you do have discussions or arguments don't bring up the past. Deal with the present.

Listen to the advise of Katherine Mansfield, "Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy. You can't build on it. It's only good for wallowing in."

If you are truly willing to see your relationship rescued, these ideas will help you and the one you love breath new life into your relationship.

Helpful Relationship Rescue Resources:
Magic of Making Up
Save My Marriage

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