Relationship Rescue, Can it Work?

You might say, "It's impossible" or "I've lost all hope". However, at this point in time, what else have you got to lose? If you want to rescue your relationship, you must hold on to that hope!

This is not about changing your partner. No amount of begging, blaming, shaming, force or manipulation will work and will only cause your spouse to resent you more. Niether will making yourself out to be the victim ever be beneficial.

True love will require compromise many times. You must be willing to bend your will and change up some things to make the relationship work. If there is to be a relationship rescue, you need to take a look at yourself to see what sort of things you might need to change and work on to be more compatible with your partner.

For instance you could tell your spouse, "I love you" with a kiss for no particular reason or tell them how much you appreciate the things they do. No matter how small or how great they are. Give complements and reinforce a positive attitude. This will bring joy and harmony back into your relationship. Little things such as these have great effects.

A major step of any relationship rescue is to change your perspective. For many people perception is a reality, but it can be a false reality. You might think you’re in the worst situation possible but then after a change of perspective, it may not seem all that bad. People have a way of blowing things out of proportion. In failing relationships this is especially true.

Quite a bit of marriage counseling deals with this bit of relationship rescue. Look closely at situations from different angles. Your spouse/partner may seem like they work too much but could it be worse? Yes, they could be hopelessly unemployed and struggling to find work. What ever the situation is, both of you are in this together. Look at it from a positive point of view. Low and behold a solution will shine through.

Talk through the negative situation and when things are settled, drop it and move on. Many of the problems that relationships face are due to the fact that there is one in the relationship or maybe both persons who hold on to grudges. Don't let that happen.

If there was something that happened in the past that has been dealt with or resolved, then let it go. There is no future in the past. When you do have discussions or arguments don't bring up the past. Deal with the present.

Listen to the advise of Katherine Mansfield, "Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy. You can't build on it. It's only good for wallowing in."

If you are truly willing to see your relationship rescued, these ideas will help you and the one you love breath new life into your relationship.

Helpful Relationship Rescue Resources:
Magic of Making Up
Save My Marriage

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