Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Simple Relationship Rescue Technique

Forever Is the WorldImage via WikipediaWouldn't it be wonderful if all relationships were blissful all of the time? Maybe, but we all live in the real world and this means we often face real difficulties. Sure, a love relationship may start off euphoric, because the two of you are so in love. Then for some reason, things begin to change. The novelty starts to wear off and before you know it you're looking for relationship rescue methods in the hopes of keeping the relationship alive. If any of this sounds familiar, you're not alone. The good news is that there are plenty of things you can do to keep your love fresh as mountain air.

Taking each other for granted is one of the biggest threats you'll face in having a strong relationship. However, this pattern can be hard to detect, because you're presuming too much. The way to battle this is to take a step back and look at things objectively. Put yourself in your partner's shoes, this will help you to be less judgmental. Don't assume anything about their motives or feelings and focuse on their positve attributes. It is always better to build people up than to pick them apart.

The lines of communication must remain open. If they were never really open, then you will have to learn how to talk to each other in a healthy way. This should not be difficult, you can learn how to do this with practice. The small investment you make in learning how to talk to each other will pay off in a big way in the long run.

A really good relationship rescue technique is to live as though each day could be the last one you will ever spend with your partner. When you do this, all of those little things that annoy you won't really matter. You will have a new appreciation for what you have, and you will focus much less on the negative things. Doing this will put the two of you on the right track to being a healthy couple.

Remember, you will reap what you sow. Use this relationship rescue technique to improve yourself and any relationship. Whether it is your marital relationship or your relationship with co-workers and friends.



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Friday, December 17, 2010

Relationship Rescue - Self Help May Save Your Relationship

A young woman and man embracing while outdoors.Image via WikipediaMany people are uncomfortable with airing their 'dirty laundry' in public. They just don't want to sit down with a therapist and hash out their troubles. They do, however, want help for those troubles and for those people relationship self help is as close as the internet.

There are many fine books and other resources online that will help the two of you find your way back to the love you once felt for each other. You don't have to go to a therapist if that idea makes you uncomfortable, you can do it yourself.

If you are unsure where to start, simply do a search for forums that are centered around relationships. Here you will likely be able to get recommendations on some great self help resources, as well as some excellent advice from others in the forum.

Frankly, a lot of relationship problems start because only one person is trying. It's not uncommon to have relationships where one person simply doesn't care and the other person is the one who does all the heavy lifting.

This manner of  interaction can only last so long. After a while, the one doing all the work becomes fed up and stops trying. From that point on it becomes a mud slide.

Take a minute, be honest and take a long hard look at your relationship. If you find that this describes your relationship, you must know that it won't be impossible but it will be a lot harder to turn things around.

You and your partner need to carefully look at the problems in your relationship. Try to figure out what the problems are, and be honest, and sit down to find alternative ways of acting or treating each other.

Please keep in mind that a turn around won't happen overnight. If you or your partner is expecting a quick fix you will be disappointed. If you expect this process to be quick and easy and it takes longer than you expected, it's possible that you will give up because you think it's simply not going to work out.

Instead, maintain realistic expectations and be willing to stick with it until you see some progress. If both of you are really trying, things will get better it's just a matter of time.

The basic recipe is to find what is causing the problems between you and your partner. Discuse the possibilities on how to correct those problems. In most cases this will mean changing some of your habits and renewing your attitude. This takes time so patience is required.

It sounds easy, but it will take enormous commitment from both of you to make it work. The good news is that if you are both committed you can do it and it's pretty easy to find all the relationship self help you will need. A light hearted approach is helpful. Can you both dance?

Attending a wedding for the first time, a little girl whispered to her mother, "Why is the bride dressed in white?" The mother replied, "Because white is the color of happiness and today is the happiest day of her life."
The child thought about this for a moment then said, "So why is the groom wearing black?"



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